This past weekend was an exceptional one as I traveled to Kansas City to celebrate impending motherhood for my oldest niece.
Her baby shower helped diminish the sadness of four Mother’s Days without my own mother. While Mom’s spirit is with us as we wait for this precious new life, it’s natural to mourn the passing of our moms who have closed the circle of life.
The best traits of motherhood
Much has been written in the last few days honoring mothers and their contributions to our lives. I believe we can keep those sentiments alive and well throughout the year by holding them close to our hearts.
It begins with acknowledging that each of us–guys and gals–hold within us the best characteristics of motherhood. These are traits we can use to mother ourselves.
Think back to when you were a kid. Did your mother praise you, encourage you and tell you that you could be or do anything you wanted? Mine did.
My mom stood right behind my decision to go to journalism school and when I graduated on her 45th birthday (The anniversary of that momentous event is actually in two days, on the 14th. I’ve been out of school for 31 years and Mom would have been 76.).
She told me I’d given her the best birthday present ever.
In her later years, especially after I went to work for a national non-profit, Mom took great pride in telling people I flew all over the country to help keep kids off drugs.
Speaking “Mom-isms” to yourself
The idea came to me over the weekend that I can use those same mothering gifts with myself. Why not?
When I’m quiet and concentrate, I can nearly hear the sound of my mother’s voice giving me advice or talking me through a challenge. Why not channel her voice and make it my own, say the things to myself that she would say to me?
Here are the 12 Mom-isms that best summarize my mother’s advice to me:
Encourage yourself to always give your best and be your best.
Passion and creativity will take you a long way in life.
Accept yourself just as you are today.
Some days you have to light your own fire under your dreams and ideas because no one else is lighting it for you. And that’s just the way it is.
You give birth to a new you every day. Take care of you in every possible way.
Swaddle yourself with loving thoughts and nurturing ways.
Never judge yourself too harshly and forgive unceasingly.
Add zest to your life with laughter and playful silliness.
Push and prod yourself, expect the best.
Love with abandon.
Open your arms wide to receive the gifts of each and every day.
Always know that you are blessed beyond belief.
I’ll cherish her words of hope and encouragement and love forever. And I’ll honor her every day by keeping her words alive.
What words from your mother can you use to mother yourself today? Please share below.
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