–Alcoholics Anonymous, page 48
I’m told that my best thinking brought me to my here-and-now circumstances. Sometimes that frightens the crap out of me because my mind field of thoughts is filled with sand traps, booby traps and every other kind of trap.
Yes it’s true. That sort of thinking must be abandoned. Before you ask how, which would be my first question, consider that the “how” isn’t as important as the “why.”
How to abandon your thinking is pretty easy . . . just think different thoughts. (I didn’t say it would be simple.) But why should you abandon those thoughts? Because those erroneous thoughts we contemplate become the beliefs that evoke our attitudes that produce our actions.
Reason #1 to Abandon Your Thinking: What we think about we bring about.
I don’t know about you, but I have an obsessive and compulsive mind. If I see it, I want it. If I want it, I can’t stop thinking about it. I must have it. I have to have it. If “it” is unattainable or at least difficult to obtain, I noodle my thoughts round and round the spoon until I find a way to get it. Then I generally hurt my arm patting myself on the back because I found a workaround. Abandon that thinking!
What if I tried accepting that I can’t have the coveted thing, the decadent dessert, the newest electronic gadget, the desire for more? What if I could be happy without?
There is every possibility that I would be happy without the latest, greatest whatever, or the most recent flavor of ice cream or the latest sequel to my favorite book or movie. Yeah, but what if I’m not?
Reason #2 to Abandon Your Thinking: You will no longer be plagued by those “yeah, buts.”
You know what I mean. Think of a time when you’ve been depressed or a little down and a well-meaning friend has offered a myriad of solutions in hopes of getting you out of your doldrums. With every offer of a helpful suggestion from your friend, you find yourself responding with “Yeah but, . . . ”
Our own thoughts can produce the same response. We can usually think of at least three options to pull our minds out of the quicksand, but we don’t follow-through because:
Reason #3 to Abandon Your Thinking: We sit in our own sh@t because it’s warm.
We’re comfortable with circumstances as they are because they’ve been this way for five, 10, 20 years or more. Things may not be the way I like them, but hey, there are millions of people worse off than me. I’m doing alright. Sure, I’m a little down and things could always be improved, but it’s not as if I’m suicidal or anything. There is someone worse off than me who needs help worse than I do. So I’ll just suck it up and be grateful for what I have.
Let’s be clear: We’re not here to suggest that anyone who changes her or his present circumstances is ungrateful for what they’ve been given. Our concern here is how those present circumstances are treated, whether with respect and integrity or with a “what the hell” cavalier attitude.
Reason #4 to Abandon Your Thinking: You’re getting bloody and bruised from beating on yourself.
For the first few years of my sobriety, I saw a counselor who said to me many times over, “Beth, eliminate all those “o-u” words from your vocabulary. No more should have, could have, would have or ought to.
I was a new woman when I took this advice to heart.
Reason #5 to Abandon Your Thinking: Much, if not all, of our thinking is erroneous.
Let’s be honest. The percentage of our thoughts that are pure and true is far less than our thoughts that masquarade as judgments and false conclusions. Erroneous thoughts create a vicious cycle of limited sight and crippling perceptions.
Reason #6 to Abandon Your Thinking: Our thinking is based on conclusions of people who lived in another time and place.
Have you ever uttered the words “that is just the way it is” or “because we’ve always done it that way?” Where is the growth, the challenge, the adventure in those phrases? Abandon them!
There you have it. Six of 12 reasons to abandon your thinking. Just let go . . . create a vacuum of emptiness where fresh, creative and beautiful thoughts can begat themselves. Yes, it’s difficult to undo years and decades of same-0ld, but I have faith in you. Let’s do it together! And don’t forget to check back for the remaining six nuggets of reasons to abandon your thinking.
See you in the fresh mind fields.
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