New Thought

How Do I Find My Voice?

IMG 2834 1 300x239 How Do I Find My Voice?Readers who know of my love for baseball may assume the title question has to do with all the post-season yelling I’ve been doing here in Dallas for the Texas Rangers.  As much as I’d like to make this post a baseball analogy, I have more pressing concerns on my mind.

This week’s Mindful Monday post described “getting at it,” that is, figuring out what makes your heart soar and then doing it.  Myrtle Fillmore, the co-founder of the Unity spiritual movement, spoke the words I repeated on Monday and as I hope they have for you, the words stuck with me this week

As we push into Friday, I feel pushed back because my Truth befuddles me.

Myrtle said, “Get busy using the Truth you know. Love those about you in a practical way; pay no attention to what others are doing, in so far as to make comparisons. Bring forth your own joyous world of love, friendship, beauty and plenty. God is giving everything required to build such a world. There is within you the God-given intelligence to build such a world. Get at it!”

Why do I say my Truth befuddles me? 

Because I don’t know how to vocalize it.  I can’t seem to put words to my Truth.  I feel like I’m stumbling around trying to speak but instead I stop, stare for awhile, open my mouth as if to utter something–anything about my Truth–and then I close my mouth.

What am I doing here?  Myrtle admonishes me to display my “own joyous world of love, friendship, beauty and plenty.”

Don’t I need to find my voice first?

I really do want to get at it, but lacking a voice seems to paralyze my actions.

I think I know what I want to do–grow B Here Today into a world-wide conversation around matters of mindfulness and presence of the heart and then build the B Here On Purpose brand to help folks lock in purposeful mindfulness in all areas of life.

I open my mouth to speak and close it again because I feel overwhelmed by technology, overcome by confusion, pain and suffering among people I love dearly and overwrought by weariness.

No wonder I can’t find my voice. 

I’m just being honest here, folks.  I desperately want to speak my Truth but I feel muffled.

Can anyone relate?  Can you feel what I’m trying to describe?  Can you share how you move deeper past the vocal blockages, so a whisper, scream or shout will emerge?

Or is this simply a time to be quiet, to wait until my voice instinctively knows it’s time to come forth?

Can anybody speak to me?





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5 Ways to Get At It!

“Get busy using the Truth you know. Love those about you in a practical way; pay no attention to what others are doing, in so far as to make comparisons. Bring forth your own joyous world of love, friendship, beauty and plenty. God is giving everything required to build such a world. There is within you the God-given intelligence to build such a world. Get at it!”

–  From “How to Let God Help You,” by Myrtle Fillmore

lone bird cr 300x199 5 Ways to Get At It!Last week marked the 80th anniversary of the death of Myrtle Fillmore, the woman credited with co-founding (along with her husband Charles), Unity, known as the positive and prayerful Christianity movement.

Last week also saw the death of Steve Jobs, the talented and innovative creator of Apple.  This is the quote that was circling a couple of days after he died:

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

Isn’t it amazing how similar the quotes are?  Two great visionaries who boldly dared to believe in their dreams and to fully own the truth of their beings.

My question–with two follow-ups–to you on this Mindful Monday is this:

Are you doing the same?

If not, why not?  Don’t you think it’s time?

Let’s break down Myrtle’s words into our daily doses for the work week.

1.  Get busy using the Truth you know.

2.  Love those about you in a practical way; pay no attention to what others are doing, in so far as to make comparisons.

3. Bring forth your own joyous world of love, friendship, beauty and plenty.

4. God is giving everything required to build such a world.

5. There is within you the God-given intelligence to build such a world. Get at it!”

Amen!  Now get at it!

Gi-normous blessings to you.

B Well & Present,



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Forgiving (Yourself) is Living!

If you’re like me, you think a lot about forgiveness and you work hard to forgive other people for their perceived wrongs. 

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I say “perceived” because when I get all resentful and righteously angry over somebody doing me wrong, I forget that the somebody in question is doing the best he or she can do in the particular moment that the great injustice toward me occurred.  And even if the offender is not offering me her best, who am I to judge?  I’m not skipping around in her shoes.  For all I know, there could be a sharp-edged rock lodged in her Size 9s that is causing her general pissiness.

Forgiveness is everything to me as a sober woman and as a godly woman.  It is one of the greatest gifts I give myself and also one of my biggest challenges.  If only I could more regularly practice the affirmative statement in today’s Daily Word

I forgive from my heart and enrich all my relationships.

But my heart has been crushed too many times . . . so it can be easier to stay angry instead of letting go of the resentment and loving instead.  In my 12-step work, we say, “hate the disease, love the alcoholic.”  Can we not transform that statement into “dislike (I REALLY dislike the word “hate”) the behavior, love the person anyway.”?

Even writing that last sentence makes my left eye twitch.  There is a person in my life right now that I really don’t want to love.  Today the best I can do is bless her when I think of her and ask God to help me with the forgiveness thing.

God knows I need help.

If only I could flip a switch and make the entire ugly mess disappear.  No can do, though, but I can say a prayer.

In fact, I can say (with as little or as much feeling as I want) the world’s shortest prayer of surrender:

Okay, God, whatever. 

The Surrender prayer helps me eliminate my biggest threat to forgiveness:  myself.

Forgiving myself for my behavior is the worst.  I have to stop second-guessing, beating myself up and in general mistreating myself when I harness the Resenting Me horse.  I have to stop allowing harsh words that describe me come out of my mouth.  I have to eliminate “o-u” words from my vocabulary–words like “should, would, could” and “ought.”

The biggest piece that I have to stop?  I have to stop allowing myself to believe that there is nothing I can do because there is.

I can make a decision and then take action.

The six-step action looks like this:

  1. Surrender (with the world’s shortest prayer or any other you choose).
  2. Pray the second coolest prayer I know, “Please show me (fill in the blank).”
  3. Become willing to receive direction (or maybe action step 2.5 is to become willing to be willing).
  4. Forgive myself or another.
  5. Say a final prayer of thanks (hard to remember to do when my arm is pulled from its socket trying to pat myself on the back for a job well done).
  6. Celebrate!

Oh yes, I’m a huge proponent of celebrating these not-so-tiny victories.  Why go to the trouble of improving ourselves if we can’t dance a little jig afterwards?

Are you dancing or simply dreaming of forgiving someone or some event?  It matters not to me because I have my own messes to clean up.  But I do hope you’ll consider putting the six-step process in place the next time you find yourself resenting and/or intensely disliking someone in your life. 

They’re there for a reason.  What if that reason were simply to teach you forgiveness?

Hmmmmmm . . . as always, let me know your thoughts and opinions.


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Introducing: Mindful Monday

I’m pretty excited to offer, beginning today, a weekly Mindful Monday blog post for my BHT readers.

MM is an inspirational writing and photo to help you open a channel for love, peace and joy to flow throughout your week.  I know you usually have a ton of stuff to do on Monday mornings, but please take a moment to ground yourself.  I promise Mindful Monday will be a short read so think of it as setting the tone for your week.  Let me know what you think and . . . Enjoy! (note: this was scheduled to depart my cloud early Monday morning, but thanks to operator error, is leaving mid-day–room for improvement is always good!)

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I’m still thinking about the principle of Intention. Regular readers will recall that Intention is one of my power words for 2011. (see my January 11 post:

It occurs to me that setting a deliberate spiritual intention accomplishes little if not followed by a belief that a path will be provided.  In fact, the path offers the perfect melding of Intention with my other two words for 2011:  Source and Order.

Source is the way of orderly direction, or “demonstration,” to use an old-fashioned term.  A demonstration cannot not work so long as the focus stays squarely on the intention.

What we think about we bring about, or as within, so without.The Rev. Ed Townley, who writes Spirit Expressing  (, says he thanks God and acknowledges the joyful good in his life.  The critical follow-up step, however, is to allow the good to express, and to believe it is good.

Are you demonstrating your good today and do you believe it IS good?

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2011 Word #2

Source–one of my three words of focus for 2011, the other two being Intention and Order. Readers of this blog may recall that I’ve sworn off new-year resolutions and decided instead this year to let God impress upon me three words to study, absorb and live by.

I spent a good deal of time with Intention over the first six weeks or so of the year and I’m getting a decent handle on the strength of the word in my life. I wrote then that setting an intention places a commitment right in front of me. In fact, I can envision holding the intention between my outstretched hands and then feel my heart bestowing its blessing.

Once blessed, the intention is released, surrendered to the universe.

Reviewing the power of an intention is a great segue into Source since an all-knowing Source is always behind my humble intentions.

As I write about Source, one big dog and one little dog lounging beside me, I’m thinking about the word as an origination point. Everything I see, feel and experience, in this moment and in past and future moments, has a starting thought, an instance of beginning. 

Everything you see, feel and experience, everything my neighbor sees, feels and experiences, heck, even what my dogs and your dogs and my neighbor’s dogs see feel and experience has an instant of fruition. 

Without getting too woo-woo, it occurs to me that all of those markers of a beginning are in addition to the origin of me, you, my neighbor and my dogs. We experience origination points out there–in our sensory world–and inside–as the origination of all our new ideas, inspirations and interpretations.

A phenomenal creative process, don’t you think?

My point is not to try to enumerate what can’t possibly be counted or tallied.  There is no keeping score or tracing back originating instances to their first inception.  There is no examination of intersections as if we’re creating one gigantic genealogical tree.

What is the point then?

The point is there is no point.  Literally.  There can’t be.  There is, however, Source.

Isn’t this fun?  I love this kind of contemplation!  I also love this simple, humble thought:

In the beginning, God.

There is nothing else.  Only one source, one Power, one God.  And, since there is nothing else, there is no opposite.  There is only God.

You may call the Source something else entirely.  Terrific!  In fact, good for you for taking that stand.  I choose God as the defining, overarching word for Source because it’s a palindrome of Dog and I love dogs.  You may have noticed but in case you’ve forgotten, here’s a small reminder.IMAG0112 150x150 2011 Word #2

Political journalist turned Unity minister, Ellen Debenport, in her book The Five Principles, A Guide to Practical Spirituality, writes, “Principle One affirms that God is all there is.  God is omnipotent, omniscient and omnipresent–not all powerful but all power, not all knowing but all knowledge, and present everywhere.

“God is the stars, the rocks, the animals, the people.  God is the love, the creativity, the wisdom that human beings express.  All that we are and have is God, and we can never be separate from that universal power.”

Beautiful words and thank you, Ellen, for your soul-touching work. 

Thank you, too, dear readers, for carrying an energetic torch with which to join all other light emanating from Source.

In the beginning, God . . .

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