How Do You Find Balance?


I apologize in advance if this post is a downer. I have a lot of heaviness on my heart.

Sometimes I wonder if one of life’s greatest challenges is to learn to balance joy and pain. Excitement and grief. Eagerness and sadness.

How do you bring yourself to a common point between the two extremes?

Faith is the easy answer, of course. “Faith is the absence of fear,” some will tell you.

I try not to spout platitudes, although I was guilty of doing just that over the weekend. Sometimes when you don’t know what to say, the inane automatically slips out.

Personally, I don’t believe there is such a thing as absence of fear.  Maybe it just shows up disguised as anxiety, insecurity or worry.

What to do?

The only thing I know to do is wait.  And while you’re waiting, maybe hit your knees or crawl onto your meditation pillow.  Take a walk, watch an insignificant movie, take a bubble bath.

Then wait some more.

Balance will come, eventually, never on my timeline, but always just in time.

Joy will return, probably more than you expected.

The light in your eyes will brighten and the anvil will lift from your heart.

Sometimes time just takes time.

Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better to take things as they come along with patience and equanimity.  ~ Carl Jung

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  1. Polly says:

    Checking in after returning from trip to warm my toes in the sand and ocean. So sorry about the heaviness in your heart and hope it is beginning to lift. Balance is key, isn’t it. Also knowing that nothing is permanent. When things are not looking up, that is comforting!!!

    Take care of yourself

    • Beth says:

      Ah, Polly, you always seem to know when my spirit needs a lift. Yes, balance is key, as is trusting that while I don’t have the entire picture, Spirit does. I envy your toe-dipping time at the ocean! Hope YOUR spirit is relaxed and refreshed.

      All the best!

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