Showing Up For Your Life
Sometimes showing up for your life can be the hardest part of living, can’t it?
I mean, think about it. You can wake up after your allotted sleep period, stumble through the motions of your wake time with the prescribed amount of caffeine and then park in front of the television or computer (or both) prior to falling into bed.
Or you can spring out of bed, take charge, kick butt, take names and crash into bed with a big WHEW!
The former is easier, isn’t it? Ah, but is it satisfying? Only if you dig emotionally dead people.
Showing up for your life and thriving in it takes strength, courage and fortitude.
Do you think you matter?
I’ve always wanted to make a difference and I’ve always assumed I had to commit to doing things on a grand scale. So showing up is important to me because I want to somehow matter.
I’m beginning to understand that pushing and driving toward the goal of “mattering” was–and is–fear-based.
Brené Brown, in her new book, Daring Greatly, says our culture has a pervasive fear of being ordinary and that fear is an emotional trigger that causes shame.
The book is terrific except it continues to point out my flaws.
Yes, I have a fear of being ordinary. There. I said it.
Am I the only one?
All my life I’ve equated making a difference with being different. I’ve always felt like a round peg in a square hole. Instead of looking for a round hole, I pushed harder to fit into the square one.
My thinking was, if I could just push a little harder, try a different twist or angle, or maybe create some kind of velocity chamber to shoot me through, gosh, what a difference that could make!
Please tell me you relate.
As an adult, I try to be a little less overt with my making-a-difference tactics, because although I still desperately want to be loved and adored (a tacky little by-product of drawing attention to the round peg/square hole scenario), I recognize that the behavior is, well, somewhat shameful.
Can you be comfortable with being ordinary?
Doesn’t it feel good to admit your flaws? Once you cross the vulnerability threshold into barren fields of truth, you become your own version of Clark Kent, the ordinary guy.
Instead of ripping off your clothes to reveal SuperMan or SuperWoman, you can just drop the facade and reveal the simple, ordinary you.
Ah, but can you be comfortable there? After all, you’ve lived with the fear of ordinary for a long time. God knows I have!
But guess what? You get to define ordinary any way you like! Personally, I want ordinary to include spontaneous, fun, travel, new experiences, striving, learning, shifting, ornery and daring.
You get to decide. You get to be you.
There is a catch, however. You can’t sit back and wait for someone to tell you how to be you. That would be you trying to be someone else.
It doesn’t work that way.
The bottom line is there is no shame in being you because you no longer have to fear being ordinary.
You are the new ordinary. So show up!
Be your new ordinary self with style and panache!