The Great Escape
When I was a kid, Bewitched was a television show about a suburban wife and mom who was normal in every respect except one. She could twitch her nose back and forth and alter time, space or circumstances.
She also spent a lot of time undoing the spells her mother cast on her husband, Darren.
I loved the show for two reasons. The main character had a cool name–Samantha–and she could wiggle her nose and poof! a problem was quickly solved or surroundings were swiftly adjusted to protect other characters.
Sometimes all I want is for someone to use their powers to set me free from my problems or my surroundings.
You alone hold the key
Let’s take a look at a hypothetical situation. You spend several days with family or old friends; people you don’t see often since you moved away from your old stomping grounds.
Once back home, you reflect back and think that mostly, you had a great time, but there were several situations that didn’t feel right. Maybe someone said something hurtful or you were in awkward circumstances. Maybe you were slighted or ignored.
You may have, in frustration, said or did something that isn’t usually part of your demeanor and you’re feeling a little guilty.
I’m betting that we all have times when our present is preoccupied with moments described above. I know I’ve asked myself why certain scenes continue to replay in my head. Why do I feel so messed up in my head?
Why do I feel this way–after the fact–and why do I feel so imprisoned by my feelings?
Sometimes, after a not-so-great situation (we’re still playing hypothetical what-if’s) you spend days worrying, fretting, feeling guilty.
Here’s the thing: No one but you holds you prisoner in the cell of you mental obsessions. You alone hold the key.
Here’s me ‘fessin’ up. The scenario described above isn’t completely hypothetical. You probably already guessed that! I just returned from several days of circumstances that found me honestly struggling. I spent a good deal of the time compulsively obsessing about one aspect of the circumstances.
There wasn’t anything I could do about it then, nor is there anything I can do about it now. Yet, the obsessing continues. I could have, should have, would have or ought to have . . . (My former therapist once told me I should erase all “o-u” words from my vocabulary.).
So how do you release yourself from obsessive mental imprisonment? By the way, “to obsess” means to haunt or excessively occupy the mind.
First, admit that you did the best you could and there is no changing what occurred in the past. Solution: Let it go!
Second, realize that your obsession is probably the result of allowing someone else’s needs to come before yours. Solution: Do your best for YOU!
Third, accept what you cannot change. Solution: Practice the Great Escape!
As cheesy as it sounds, you can escape the grip of your obsessive mind just by wiggling your nose back and forth. Go ahead and try it. At a minimum, you’ll chuckle at your own silliness and in that moment, you’ll break the obsession’s spell and become free to move about the universe.
Be careful, though. Your actions might bewitch others.
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