Trust the Process


Sunday was an exciting day for me; two of my friends who are Unity ministers as well as a married couple, debuted at the major church near where I live.

The husband in the duo is the former minister of my old home church in Missouri; he’s also a trusted confidante and dear friend.  I have a huge amount of respect for his wife, although I don’t know her as well (something tells me that’s fixin’ to change).

We had a terrific reunion today, lots of hugs and grins and you-look-greats.  As we chit-chatted a bit before the service, Rob mentioned the title of Aliza’s talk:  Trust the Process.

My insides went mushy, my face contorted and I heard myself groan, “Ewwwww.”

Rob said, “Just wait.  You’ve gonna love this.  It will blow you away.”

I did a mental toe stub.  Okayyyyyyy.

An overused phrase

Trust the process.  Geez, it seems like that’s the default phrase for every self-help guru and masterminding group on stage today, not to mention the mantra-like repetitions of people attending 12-step groups.

I mean no disrespect, but as word strings go, this one has jumped the shark.  I believe it’s lost some of its punch simply because people say it in response to everything.

Had a flat tire?  Trust the process.

Can’t decide which running shoes to buy?  Trust the process.

You’re going to have brain surgery?  Trust the process.

Praying for strength and wisdom, for God to lead you?  Trust the process.

See what I mean?  When someone tells me to trust the process, I have the same regurgitating reaction as when someone shrugs and says, “It is what it is.”  Don’t even get me started on that one.

Because I love Rob and Aliza, I decided to trust the process on trusting the process.

I listened and I heard.

Not surprisingly, Aliza’s church talk had a twist.  She told a story about a guy telling God that he wanted to do something of significance, so God said, fine, go outside and push that rock.

The guy happily pushed the rock for days and weeks and months until, in frustration he cried out, God, I’ve been pushing and pushing and pushing and nothing has happened!  I quit.

The poor guy mis-heard God.  God said push the rock.  The guy heard move the rock.

The process that he failed to trust was realizing that he couldn’t take all his steps at one time.  In other words, the guy needed to get really good at being in the presence of pushing the rock (or any other singular activity) before he could move the rock even one inch.

During Aliza’s talk, I sat there thinking about my most recent life challenge.  I lost my job then decided the time was right to launch a freelance writing and communications consulting business.

The time is right.  But I keep pushing the rock expecting it to move.  Like the man in the story, I want to meld a whole bunch of steps into one giant leap instead of being with one step at a time.

Why?  Because I need to feel secure.  I need to have financial assurance.  I need to blah, blah, blah.

Aliza spoke about putting aside our needs aside and trusting the process of being where we are.  I listened and I heard.

Today, that is enough.  Today, I’m going to trust the process and commune with my rock.

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  1. Jerry Brady says:

    What a great blog on how to start growing !

    Thank you for the desire from the heart to share your life and what goes on inside you so others may grow.

    It is such a great feeling of “Joy” inside us when the “Light Goes ON” !

  2. Beth says:

    Hey Jerry! Great to hear from you again. Thank you for the compliment; joy is such an underrated commodity, isn’t it?

    I hope all is well in your world.

    B Well!

    • Jerry Brady says:

      Yes it is !! Joy is what I use to stay moving forward and in so many other ways also. It has become part of my “Core”! My safety net

      All it take is a “Smile” to turn anything around and the Love that is within us produces the ability to do so.

      Doing great today . But been down for 4 weeks with my lower back disk out . WOW NEW OUTLOOK on Life. Pain so bad even with BIG time med’s wanted to just check out ! So greatfull to the Universe allowing me to grow in this time of pain to another “Level” ! Yeppie I’m doing better today and each day gets less pain and no med’s .

      Seeing the pain many live with each day in this world and the pain others inflict on the human race has opened a new chapter within me 🙂 :):)

      Waiting to see what “The Universe” has for me 🙂

      Your blog’s have been so cool to read the last few weeks !

  3. Galen Pearl says:

    You are such a clever and creative writer, blending humor, your own story, and wisdom. I had to laugh at your initial reaction to “trust the process.” I’ve probably overused that myself! It’s especially applicable since my word of the year this year is Wait–ha!

    Anyway, I’m glad you had such a good reunion and I know your process is going to lead you in exciting paths!

    • Beth says:

      Thanks, Galen! You’ve made me grateful that my word for the year is “merely” Simplify! Gosh, I don’t know how well I’d do the your word, or worse . . . Patience!

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