Want to Know How to Mind Your Own Business? Drop the Kitty!

As a kid, we heard our parents tell us to keep our nose where it belonged.

We heard our playground playmates tell us to mind our own bees wax.

My mother used to tell me to tend to my own knitting.

Of course, thanks to Twitter, we have MYOB.

In recovery rooms, we’re advised to stay behind our belly buttons, to not pay attention to anything beyond the end of our own nose, and my personal favorite:

Stay within your hula hoop.

I’ve been hearing that one a lot lately.

Seriously, do we not have enough going on in our own lives that we have to insert ourselves in somebody else’s business?

Like, who died and made us the be-all and know-all?  (Remember that one?)

I swear if I never hear the phrase, “If I were you, I would _______ (fill in the blank)” it will be too soon.

One day, my friend Megan and I were chatting about how all “those” people offer unwanted (and often uncalled for) advice.  We decided that “they” were determined to infringe on our right to make our own decisions.  We just knew that “those” self-righteous people were out to make our lives miserable with their so-called good intentions.

Megan said, “We should just tell them all to drop the kitty.”


Here’s the story, as told by my wise and witty friend:

I started leaving cat food out on my front porch for a very small, bright white cat after a neighbor moved away and left it roaming the neighborhood. I named the kitty James Brown because every time he meowed, it sounded like the singer screaming his song, “I feel good!”

When I first saw he’d been abandoned, I told James Brown he was welcome to live with us if he could get along with my 90-pound dog, Jake. I let the cat in the house, and after several very fast and noisy laps of chase, we made the mutual decision that JB could not be in the house.  

James Brown returned outdoors and each day I’d fill the cat food bowl on the front porch for him. After a few days, I noticed a huge gray cat bullying James Brown off the porch to eat the food. I asked the bully cat politely not to do that anymore.

The second time I chased the bully cat away, I told him that if he didn’t stop, that my very large dog would do the honors next time.

The third day the bully cat was there eating the cat food, and simply wanting to scare him off, I  opened the front door and jokingly called,  “Jake. Get the Kitty.”

Jake ran onto the front porch,  clamped his huge jaws around the bully cat and started shaking him side to side. A friend was visiting, and both of us yelled at the top of our lungs, “JAKE! DROP THE KITTY! DROP THE KITTY!”

Jake did drop the kitty and James Brown was never bullied again.

The moral of the story?

The next time you’re inclined to bully your way into someone else’s business, jump back in the circle of your hula hoop, mind your own bees wax and drop the kitty!

(photo courtesy of Cimeries)

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  1. Bobbi Emel says:

    Cute story, Beth! Even though he was a bully, I’m glad the gray kitty was okay.

    I’ll remember to drop the kitty the next time I’m sure I’m the boss of the world!

    • Beth says:

      I know, Bobbi, I would never wish harm on an animal . . . even a bully. I can’t wait to tell my friend Megan that more and more people are dropping the kitty!

      Blessings for the rest of your day!

  2. Galen Pearl says:

    So glad I came over from Alex’s blog to visit yours! I look forward to reading more!

    • Beth says:

      Galen, you’re so sweet. I’m so glad to see you again (even though you can’t see me at the moment because my Gravatar is missing. 🙁 Working on that!). Sure appreciate your kind words.
      Happy Friday!

  3. Hi Beth,

    I love this one! It can be annoying to have others give advice when it isn’t asked for. That was a great lesson in Al-Anon. I’ll add Live and let Live to your list, but I’m partial to “jump back in the circle of your hula hoop.” Take care.

    • Beth says:

      You’re so right, Cathy–Live and Let Live should definitely be included. I think I let it out subconsciously on-purpose! Thanks for the read and the stop-by.
      B Well!

  4. This is a wonderful visual and one that I will definitely use. Minding my own business was one of the hardest things for me to learn to do (and I still fall back from time-to-time) after so many years of practice trying to stop the drinking that pervaded the lives of so many of my loved ones and friends. My “just trying to help” could be so harmful. It’s amazing the time I have in my life (and thoughts) now that I’ve learned what you’ve so beautifully described to “drop the kitty.” Thank you, Beth!

    • Beth says:

      Lisa, MYOB IS hard, and like everything else in my recovery journal, is a one-day-at-a-time proposition. Today happens to be a good day in that regard, and I am hugely grateful! Here’s to a fabulous Friday, April 27, for you!

      B Well!

  5. Kaylee says:

    On the contrary, I used to LOVE those kinds of people. The ones who would hear my problem and immediately tell me what I should do. That was way easier than trying to figure it out for myself, and it took away any pressure and responsibility.

    It also took away my power. Since regaining that and recognizing that I’M responsible for my life, I’ve come to really dislike “them!” I really think “MYOB” is a lesson many people need to re-learn. (though we’re all guilty sometimes!)

    Thanks for the reminder and the story! 🙂

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