We Are All in Recovery


“We are all damaged. We have all been hurt. We have all had to learn painful lessons. We are all recovering from some mistake, loss, betrayal, abuse, injustice or misfortune. All of life is a process of recovery that never ends. We each must find ways to accept and move through the pain and to pick ourselves back up. For each pang of grief, depression, doubt or despair there is an inverse toward renewal coming to you in time. Each tragedy is an announcement that some good will indeed come in time. Be patient with yourself.” Bryant McGill

Let me ask you something. Has there been a time when you shifted from one set of values to another?

Maybe you once considered yourself a Democrat and now align more with Republican values. Or maybe you were raised in one religious denomination and as an adult you attend a church in a different faith.

Heck, I’ll ask the question more directly: What does the word recovery mean to you? Without considering addictions, do you consider yourself in recovery?

We are all in recovery

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the impossibility of living several decades without experiencing any shifts or change. There has to come a time when we see things or do things differently. When we do, others are affected in ways great and small, sort of like collateral damage to our bombshell decisions.

Chances are you’ve been someone’s collateral damage. I know I have. The question is not about what happened but whether you chose to retaliate or recover. What did you do with the damaged parts of yourself?

To be human is to be hurt. The beauty of living is that pain gives you opportunity to recover and be different. @bheretoday (Click to Tweet)

Making changes in your life takes courage and requires faith. Throw in a smidgeon of patience and a bit of “oh-what-the-hell”-ness and you’re well on your way to recovery. But first, you have to:

Drop the remote control

I have a theory. If you’re cruising through life on remote control doing the same things all the time, your chances of ever questioning your beliefs, attitudes and opinions are fairly low. You tell people you’re happy with the predictability of your days; you even respond with “same-old, same-old” when asked what’s new.

On the other hand, if you’re fully present to each moment, the chances are good that at some point you’ll question a whole bunch of things in your life, like whether you’re with the right person, in the right job or living in the right place.

People change. They recover from mindsets they once held. They stretch and grow and reach and understand they want to be different. They want to be relationship with people in a different way and maybe even with different people.

They want to be better, to change, shift and live better. My God, if that’s not recovery, I don’t know what is.

When you look at your life and feel at peace because of changes you’ve made, that’s recovery. @bheretoday (Click to Tweet)

When you look at someone else’s life and realize you no longer want it because you like your life, that’s recovery squared, mathematically speaking.

Go ahead, make that shift, be that change. Somewhere in your future, there’s a new you thanking yourself.

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  1. Fran Sorin says:

    I absolutely loved this post- it speaks to the deepest parts of me about being mindful and present vs,’living life on remote control.’

    I have always felt it extremely unfair in our culture when a politician is running for office and is called out for a view point, a vote, or whatever from 10-15 years ago.

    • Beth says:

      Amen, Fran! If I were held accountable for something I said or a viewpoint I had from years ago, I’d be in big trouble!

      We are such an unforgiving people sometimes . . .

      So glad you liked the post; I treasure your praise!

  2. […] If you are looking for ideas about how to do baby steps with someone who is struggling with addiction, Tori over at The Addict In My House has a few ideas. She also has a couple of paragraphs about codependency and enabling behavior which are important to read. But the most significant sentence in the whole post is: “Take the focus off of them and put it on you.” You MUST learn to do this when you are dealing with others who are struggling with addiction in order to maintain your own health. We Are All In Recovery […]

  3. Beth,
    I found your article on accident. I was doing a search for Recovery Squared, which is a blog and podcast I created a few months ago. It looks like we think alike!
    Loved the article!

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