Which Person Are You: Black & White or Rainbow-Colored?
Think about it: when someone asks you if you like Coke or Pepsi, you have an answer.
Same with Mac or PC (if you believe the TV commercials).
Ditto for political parties (although it seems as if ALL Americans are ready to do away with partisan, bi-partisan and all partisans).
Black or white aside, and disregarding all the rigid people we know who never cross a line drawn in the sand (my apologies if you are one of those types, but I kind of doubt it), there is still a lot of gray out there.
Let me ask you a question.
Do you consider yourself a spontaneous person or do you prefer to always have a plan of action to follow?
That’s definitely a gray-area question because there are so many what-if’s attached. So let’s take it a little further and set up a scenario:
It’s Sunday morning and you’re doing one of your most favorite things–hanging out with your java, your newspaper, your sweetie and your dogs. Life is good. You’re setting the kick-back tone for the Sunday. You know that your agenda consists of nothing more than watching some NFL football, taking the dogs for a walk and having a snooze. Sounds like heaven, right?
All at once, your sweetie says, “Hey, did you know that the (fill in the blank) is happening today at 2? At Lee Park?”
“Nope,” you say, never taking your eyes off the arts and entertainment section.
“Well,” she says, “What do you think about going?”
This, right here, is a defining moment, folks.
It’s a moment when allegiances waver. Your mental calendar marked this particular Sunday as the football-dog-walk-nap Sunday. You’re kind of attached to your mental calendar.
On the other hand, it sure seems like something your sweetie wants to do (in two hours). In that defining moment, you look at her and think, then say, “Yes, yes, I believe I do want to go to that thing in the park at 2.”
And you mean it.
Welcome to the world of spontaneity.
It’s my world now and I love it. It’s not the world of 48 years of my past, but it is definitely my life now.
I value the here-and-now pleasures of making impromptu decisions today much more than I value the cautious, think-it-through, look-at-the-situation-from-all-angles response mechanism I used to have in my life.
A few years ago when asked the same question, I would have let my “yeah-but” voice talk me out of wanting to go where I was invited.
You know the voice.
“Yeah, but I have a ton of stuff to do today (For whom, especially if it’s the week-end?).”
“Yeah, but I was gonna . . . (What? Read the paper, watch football, take a nap?).”
“Yeah, but what if . . . (I don’t have fun, see someone I know, spill something on my shirt, step in a hole–which I did).”
My yeah-but voice needs to occasionally be told to shut up.
If I wanted safety, predictability and regularity, I could have stayed in my old life–that black and white life.
In fairness, I thought that life was what I wanted because that is the way I was raised–you are supposed to eventually arrive somewhere when you are X years old and at Y stage in life.
Can I do something different?
Can I say that I would rather live for experiences rather than security? None of us knows what the rest of today looks like–why do we assume that we do? It does not have to look like yesterday!
I walked away from a lot of stuff–much of which I miss–when I left my old life. I stepped away from a lot of conventional responsibilities and two years later people in my former life still think I’m crazy.
My response? Hell yes, I’m crazy–crazy in love with the rainbow colors of my life.
How about you? Spontaneous or predictable? Neither is right or wrong, so long as YOU are comfortable that you’re being true to your essence.
THAT is the line in the sand.