Who Creates the Wind Beneath Your Wings?
Who is always there for you, no questions asked?
Who tends to irritate you, usually when you’re a stubborn nincompoop?
Who are your teammates, your tribe, your go-to peeps?
Who are your people who say, “What do you need?” when you call (and mean it) instead of “What do you want?” (and hope you don’t tell them.)?
The circles of Team Beth (please replace my name with yours)
There is a ring of people close to me–I can count on one hand the people who are unconditionally, unequivocally, even unconventionally there for me no matter what and no questions asked. Oh my God, these are my lifesaving heroes because I know they’ll go to the mat for me.
There is a secondary ring of people I can call and they’ll listen, express concern and offer to pray. I need these people too; they play an invaluable role.
The third ring is my cadre of social connections–the people I respect more than really know, but their reputation for spreading love, generosity and kindness is real. Sometimes I turn to these folks when I can’t yet reach out to the first or second ring because I’m caught up in fear. These people help me find the courage to move closer to my heart, tighter to my inner rings.
Getting through the sucky times
I’ve shared here that I’m walking through several growth situations right now. None of them is life-threatening (or sobriety-threatening, for that matter), but lump them all together and these are some crazy-making times.
A couple of weeks ago, as I headed out-of-town, my sweetie handed me a bundle of greeting cards sealed in envelopes. She’s an old-fashioned paper card giver–love it!–so giving me a couple of cards to read while I’m gone is not unusual.
This was a thick bundle, though. Nine cards. Yes, nine. Even a couple from our dog.
They were covered in stickers and funny notes. The cards were heartfelt and hugely comforting. Several of the cards even held those little 2×2 cards with tear off tabs revealing an inspirational quote.
I teared up more than once as I read those cards over the course of the few days I was gone. Here are the quotes:
We are most alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures. ~ Thornton Wilder
There are many things in life that will catch your eye, but only a few will catch your heart. Pursue those. ~ Michael Nolan.
I am so glad you are here. It helps me to realize how beautiful my world is. ~ Rainer Maria Rilke
The best thing to hold onto in life is each other. ~ Audrey Hepburn
Caring is everything. ~ Friedrich von Hügel
The most precious things of life are near at hand. ~ John Burroughs
My sweetie did it right, didn’t she? That’s why she’s my #1 fan, superstar of my inner circle and wind beneath my wings. Everyone should have a sweetie like mine.
Maybe you do. That will be my prayer for you.