Write the Next Chapter of the Book of YOU!
“If you want something you’ve never had, you must be willing to do something you’ve never done.” ~ Thomas Jefferson
Practicing mindfulness at work is pretty difficult when you become unemployed. Staying in today flies like a bird out the window; your mind becomes firmly entrenched in what seems like a shredded future.
What will I do now is a question you ask yourself every hour. You say the words “I lost my job” so often that panic becomes familiar, like a worn-out pair of jeans.
On the half hour, you find yourself sighing heavily. Fear grips your heart in a vise.
What do you fear?
What is your fear?
Maybe it’s destitution or financial insecurity or failure.
You think, “I’m _____ years old and no one will hire me.”
In my experience, and the above is my experience, you have to freak out before you can pull yourself together.
Feel the feelings, the stages of grief. I initially tried to deny them and quickly discovered the anger and sadness will find a way out.
It ‘s best to feel them as you need to. Here’s a secret: As you allow yourself the stages of grieving, eventually you’ll discover that the feeling itself makes you feel more alive.
The numbness will subside
With a little practice, you’ll discover that you are more present and more tuned into your feelings. You are less numb and that’s a good thing!
If you need help with the numbness, get it! There is no shame in asking for help. As I write this, I’m about an hour away from a date with my therapist.
Where do you get your strength? Whether it’s church, or a forest or a bowling alley, go there! I draw my strength from my 12-step meetings; I set a schedule and do my best to stick to it.
Be present to this idea: You are now free to create your new work life. I know you need money, but it’s critical that you give yourself the gift of contemplation about your future.
I don’t claim to be a career counselor, but I know this: If you let yourself see yourself as a person who loves her job instead of just going to work, you’ll be much more satisfied with your choices.
Answer this question: What kind of work will prevent you from getting the Sunday night/Monday morning blues?
Turn your avocation into your vocation.
Now is the time. Turn what you love into a job that brings you passion and satisfaction.
I’ve always wanted to be a professional writer. For me that means earning my living by stringing words together. I had a brief stint years ago when I freelanced in the real estate section of The Kansas City Star.
I’ve written–all my life–beginning with stilted diary-style writing as a little girl. There have been lots of assignments in between for one boss or another. Finally, I started this blog a few years back as a creative outlet.
But now. Now is my time to soar!
I’d love to see you soar as well. Bring your focus to your heart for a minute. Close your eyes and breathe deeply.
See yourself, in this very moment, working at the job you love. See it. Feel it. Absorb the images into your marrow and just rest with them for a moment.
Do you feel yourself smile? Your heart is beaming with the light of your possibilities.
Now go. Enough daydreaming. It’s time to breathe life into your minds-eye images. When you’re ready, join me in the clouds and we will soar together.